Top Tips For Incredibly Sensual Temperature Play
During hot, languid summer nights, there is often only one temperature we think of when we think of intense, passionate orgasmic sex sessions, either with a partner, with a sex toy kit or with both. Why not both?
When we think of sex, we also only think of the heat of bodies coming together, to the point that we think of hot, steamy sex as the best kind and cold, frigid sex as the worst.
However, with temperature play done right, cold suddenly becomes a very sensual and intense experience.
A form of sensation play, temperature play is all about inflaming the senses and taking advantage of how different temperatures change how blood flows around the most sensitive spots of the body to create some very potent reactions.
When done right, a mixture of hot and cold sensations can drive people to ecstasy with the slightest of touches, and with that in mind, here are some top tips for making the most of temperature.
Experiment Without Pressure
There are a lot of ways to do temperature play, from rubbing ice cubes on the nipples of your partner or touching them through a warm blanket, to using a frozen glass dildo or dripping hot wax onto their body.
Like so many BDSM practices, there are a lot of ways to do it and they range from soft and gentle to deeply intense.
The key to ensuring it works is to always make sure that you know what your expectations and boundaries are going in. Like any BDSM play, always have a safe word and stop as soon as it is said to avoid pain or discomfort.
Always Start Slowly
Bodies work best with gradual changes, so do not start immediately thrusting a frozen dildo inside. Explore the entire body and look for how your partner reacts. If they are not enjoying it or feeling comfortable at all, ease up or try something else.
Start with the shoulders, the arms, the stomach and the lower legs before working your way to the mouth, the nipples and the inner thighs.
Different parts of the body will react in different ways, so take your time and enjoy your partner’s writhing feelings.
Only Freeze Suitable Toys
Sex toys are made from all sorts of materials to provide different sensations, but not all of them are suitable for freezing.
Look for toys that remain body-safe whilst frozen. Glass, metal and most (but not all) silicone toys are perfect for freezing or keeping in a bowl of ice for a while.
Do Not Go Too Hot
It probably goes without saying that the aim is shocking, intense sensual sensations and not to scald your partner’s genitals, so take care when putting toys in warm water to heat them.
If in doubt, test the toy on the inside of your wrist near your veins. If they feel painful, your partner is going to find them painful too. This is also true for frozen toys as well, and it is always worth waiting a little bit for them to cool down ever so slightly whilst you play in a different way.